Being a Heartthrob
The big obsession of men and women for beauty has been bothering me for quite a while now. Nowadays, it seems that nothing but beauty matters anymore, as if only beauty makes the world go round.
Right now, let me talk to guys about their big O--being a heartthrob.
A strikingly handsome face coupled with a winsome killer smile, a pair of deep, expressive eyes coupled with a proud nose, a lean body coupled with a perfectly tanned complexion, an impeccable body language coupled with an oh-so-cool façade, a trendy fashion statement coupled with a mysteriously alluring aura that held much aplomb and virility—put them all together and you have a HEARTTHROB!
I know as much as you guys do that being a romantically attractive boy has its great advantages. Let me name ten reasons why:
1.) Since it is every starry-eyed girl’s desire to have a heartthrob touch her hand, stare deeply into her eyes, whisper sweet nothings to her ears, pull her into his strong arms, and kiss her with sheer love and passion (Believe me, even girls of the rational type couldn’t help but let their minds roam on such quixotic dreams sometimes!), a heartthrob can effortlessly make a girl fall helplessly in love with him.
(Well…blame it on those hackneyed boy-meets-girl stories and potboilers for making girls expect too much in an intimate relationship with a boy. No, scratch that! Those mediocre romance fictions were idealistic enough to cause girls to expect too much IN A BOY.)
2.) He needn’t court girls, because it’s the girls who do the courting!
3.) He needn’t show off, because even without him trying, girls can still notice him easily.
4.) He needn’t worry about his social life. If he were some famous rock star or magazine idol—or even just a popular boy wonder in school for that matter—it would be highly likely for him to have a huge fan club of his own. Even gays might be all over him too. (Now that gives me the goosebumps!)
5.) He needn’t worry about forcing himself to requite the “love” of all those infatuated fan girls, because they adore him so zealously that they wouldn’t mind pining over unrequited love—in fact, they might not even mind if he were to treat them coldly or shoo them away.
6.) He needn’t worry about not receiving any gifts during special holidays—his fan girls will surely sacrifice their one-month allowances just to buy him something special.
7.) He needn’t worry about not having a Valentine during the month of February; in fact, girls would either fall in line to let him pick one of them for a date or crowd over him to tell them they’re available.
8.) He needn’t worry about doing his homework—he can get those girls to do the job for him. As for group projects…well, let’s just say he can easily find groupmates.
9.) He needn’t worry about bullies, because any boy who would dare insult or hurt him will definitely be mobbed by a battalion of vindictive girls. That’s why he has every right to feel superior over other boys because he gets all the girls.
10.) It’ll be a whole easier for him to be a magazine idol or fashion model, since he possessed the image of a young Adonis.
There are still many other more to mention, but it’s better to stop to that.
Now, what about those who are not destined to be a heartthrob? Does that mean they’ll have no advantage towards women at all? No, of course not! In fact, when it comes to love, guys, you shouldn’t worry much about your looks and I’ll do you all a favor of telling you three reasons why:
1.) It’s love we’re talking about here, not some Mr. Suave contest!
As the famous English poet William Shakespeare once quoted, “Love is blind.” In other words, true love is clairvoyant in a sense that it pays no heed to superficial matters, for it listens solely to the whispers of the heart and looks beyond what seems to be. When true love strikes, looks, social status, intelligence, behavior—everything except feelings of love is next to nothing.
Remember:
a.) If a girl’s heart were struck by Cupid’s arrow and had her eyes first set on you, your overall appearance wouldn’t matter anymore. She will love you unconditionally—no limits, no compromises. What will be important for her is none other than your love; in fact, she couldn’t care less what you look like in other’s eyes! To her, you are the most incredible man in the world and her love for you would transcend a lifetime…
b.) Now, when a girl is in love with a boy only because of his irresistible looks, his charming smile, his high social status, his body language, or his spontaneous wits, then that love surely won’t last long. Why? Let me show you Elizabeth Browning’s sonnet XIV of her Sonnets from the Portuguese:
If thou must love me, let it be for naught
Except for love’s sake only. Do not say
“I love her for her smile—her look—her way
Of speaking gently—for a trick of thought
That falls in well with mine, and Certes’ brought
A sense of pleasant case on such a day.”—
For these things in themselves, Beloved, may
Be changed, or changed for thee—and love, so wrought.
May be unwrought so: Neither love me for
Thine own dear pity’s wiping my cheeks dry—
A creature might forget to weep, who bore
Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!
But love me for love’s sake, that evermore
Thou mayest love on, through love’s eternity.
As you can see in this sonnet, one should love a person simply for the sake of love only, for superficial things such as appearances, demeanor, and body language are likely to change after a course of time; as a matter of fact, these things might even completely fade away. If these ephemeral things were the only reason why some girl is smitten with you, then FORGET IT! Dump her at once, and don’t let her have a say about it, because sooner or later, she’ll have your heart shattered into pieces.
2.) Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
The judgment of our own eyes towards things is not determined by society’s standards. It is rather, or should be, determined by our own standards. What our thoughts and feelings are about the things we see is, and will never be, bounded to what society demands us to think.
Your looks may not be of high caliber for the traditional yardstick of society, but that doesn’t mean that you should automatically deem yourself as ‘a plain-looking man’, because surely, there will be individuals out there who would judge you otherwise—you might look cute, handsome, attractive, hot, or sexy in their (girls of course!) eyes. You’ll never know!
I know that in your lifetime you have already seen a lot of dysfunctional couples passed by—a homely, vertically challenged man holding hands with a pretty woman who is a head taller than him, or a wealthy, handsome young man together with a plain, dark-skinned brunette perhaps—and you’ve also seen that they love each other despite what society would say about them…that they deem each other the most beautiful thing despite what society’s opinions were.
3.) Looks are not the only thing that counts.
Ok, so you’re looks are not powerful enough to make a girl fall in love, but that definitely doesn’t mean you should give up trying. You still have other good traits with you, so instead of fretting over your looks, why don’t you just concentrate on implanting a good impression on a girl you’re hitting on by making yourself look good in some other way? You can be more than presentable by putting on some fashionable clothes, having your hair neatly trimmed, shaving the excess hairs on your chin, and of course, making yourself smell appealing by spraying on some of your male cologne; you can make your personality pleasing by being in your best behavior and by showing off your sense of humor spontaneously; you can give her flowers or chocolates or whatever gifts that girls may deem as sweet…oh…the list goes on and on! Believe me, good impressions count a hell lot more than looks. If I were to choose between a handsome man with an obnoxious personality and a plain-looking man with a dashing demeanor, I’d definitely go for the latter!
Still not convinced that not being attractive is not such a bad thing? Still think boys with such problems should do everything in their power—even spend tons of cash for a plastic surgery—to look as handsome as they can possibly be? Well, let me tell you something: not being a heartthrob also has its own benefits. Let me give you ten examples:
1.) When a girl tells him that she truly loves him for who he was, he has every reason to believe it—for one, he is sure that she’s not in love with him merely because of his ‘good’ looks.
2.) He needn’t worry about the trauma of waking up every morning only to be greeted at once by a bunch of obsessed girls waiting outside his front door to swoon over him and ask him to walk to school with them.
3.) He needn’t worry about having a whole army of annoying fan girls fight over him or chase after him the whole day, excluding class hours.
4.) He needn’t worry about suffering from the venomous glares of jealous boys, which is also why he shouldn’t worry about his not having any boy chum.
5.) He needn’t worry about having his locker filled with tons of unwanted gifts and junks as the code was somehow figured out by the ever-so-resourceful fan girls.
6.) He needn’t worry about cleaning up his electronic mailbox because it was being filled up with useless love quotes, clichés, and letters.
7.) He needn’t worry about the extreme dangers heartthrobs should face during the month of love. Even though he might not be able to find a Valentine date easily, at least he won’t be in a danger of encountering a limb fracture—desperate fan girls would not hesitate in playing tug of war and pulling the arms of their hottie just to get him to pick any one of them for a Valentine date; These wild love-struck gals would even resort to violence just to get what they thought should be rightfully theirs.
8.) He needn’t worry about his girlfriend being scared away or devoured by green-eyed monsters in the form of fan girls. That’s why heartthrobs usually end up being bachelors, because their girlfriends couldn’t stand the tortures, the insults, and the evil schemes of fan girls long enough to stick with him. (That’s how desperately evil fan girls are…)
9.) He needn’t worry about his girlfriend mistaking him for a two-timer. Now this is a different scenario. What if some annoying fan plunged into him and as he placed his hands on her shoulder to shrug her off, his girlfriend passed by and misunderstood the whole act? Tut, tut, tut…you know the rest…
10.) He needn’t worry about having gays fall in love or tag along with him, calling him ‘papa’ or other endearments that are even more hair-raising. (I’m feeling those goosebumps again…)
There you guys have it—some of the advantages of not being extremely handsome. Now I have a question for you: What do think of yourself?
Are you that young man who possessed looks that girls would willingly die for?
Are you that young man who possessed a mysterious sex appeal that could easily draw a girl’s attention?
Are you that young man who possessed none of those beautiful superficial things yet has the dashing demeanor that a gentleman ought to have?
Well, actually, it doesn't matter what you are. So long as you build up your self-confidence, make a good impression on people, live your life in a fruitful manner, and be the best that you can be, surely, there'll come a time wherein you'll be a heartthrob in people's eyes.
I know it's kind of idealistic for me to say so, but all I can say is that, I can't be denied that it is still in people's nature to see what truly matters in life. Perhaps it takes long for most people, but the point is that they still do. Even in this materialistic world.
Right now, let me talk to guys about their big O--being a heartthrob.
A strikingly handsome face coupled with a winsome killer smile, a pair of deep, expressive eyes coupled with a proud nose, a lean body coupled with a perfectly tanned complexion, an impeccable body language coupled with an oh-so-cool façade, a trendy fashion statement coupled with a mysteriously alluring aura that held much aplomb and virility—put them all together and you have a HEARTTHROB!
I know as much as you guys do that being a romantically attractive boy has its great advantages. Let me name ten reasons why:
1.) Since it is every starry-eyed girl’s desire to have a heartthrob touch her hand, stare deeply into her eyes, whisper sweet nothings to her ears, pull her into his strong arms, and kiss her with sheer love and passion (Believe me, even girls of the rational type couldn’t help but let their minds roam on such quixotic dreams sometimes!), a heartthrob can effortlessly make a girl fall helplessly in love with him.
(Well…blame it on those hackneyed boy-meets-girl stories and potboilers for making girls expect too much in an intimate relationship with a boy. No, scratch that! Those mediocre romance fictions were idealistic enough to cause girls to expect too much IN A BOY.)
2.) He needn’t court girls, because it’s the girls who do the courting!
3.) He needn’t show off, because even without him trying, girls can still notice him easily.
4.) He needn’t worry about his social life. If he were some famous rock star or magazine idol—or even just a popular boy wonder in school for that matter—it would be highly likely for him to have a huge fan club of his own. Even gays might be all over him too. (Now that gives me the goosebumps!)
5.) He needn’t worry about forcing himself to requite the “love” of all those infatuated fan girls, because they adore him so zealously that they wouldn’t mind pining over unrequited love—in fact, they might not even mind if he were to treat them coldly or shoo them away.
6.) He needn’t worry about not receiving any gifts during special holidays—his fan girls will surely sacrifice their one-month allowances just to buy him something special.
7.) He needn’t worry about not having a Valentine during the month of February; in fact, girls would either fall in line to let him pick one of them for a date or crowd over him to tell them they’re available.
8.) He needn’t worry about doing his homework—he can get those girls to do the job for him. As for group projects…well, let’s just say he can easily find groupmates.
9.) He needn’t worry about bullies, because any boy who would dare insult or hurt him will definitely be mobbed by a battalion of vindictive girls. That’s why he has every right to feel superior over other boys because he gets all the girls.
10.) It’ll be a whole easier for him to be a magazine idol or fashion model, since he possessed the image of a young Adonis.
There are still many other more to mention, but it’s better to stop to that.
Now, what about those who are not destined to be a heartthrob? Does that mean they’ll have no advantage towards women at all? No, of course not! In fact, when it comes to love, guys, you shouldn’t worry much about your looks and I’ll do you all a favor of telling you three reasons why:
1.) It’s love we’re talking about here, not some Mr. Suave contest!
As the famous English poet William Shakespeare once quoted, “Love is blind.” In other words, true love is clairvoyant in a sense that it pays no heed to superficial matters, for it listens solely to the whispers of the heart and looks beyond what seems to be. When true love strikes, looks, social status, intelligence, behavior—everything except feelings of love is next to nothing.
Remember:
a.) If a girl’s heart were struck by Cupid’s arrow and had her eyes first set on you, your overall appearance wouldn’t matter anymore. She will love you unconditionally—no limits, no compromises. What will be important for her is none other than your love; in fact, she couldn’t care less what you look like in other’s eyes! To her, you are the most incredible man in the world and her love for you would transcend a lifetime…
b.) Now, when a girl is in love with a boy only because of his irresistible looks, his charming smile, his high social status, his body language, or his spontaneous wits, then that love surely won’t last long. Why? Let me show you Elizabeth Browning’s sonnet XIV of her Sonnets from the Portuguese:
If thou must love me, let it be for naught
Except for love’s sake only. Do not say
“I love her for her smile—her look—her way
Of speaking gently—for a trick of thought
That falls in well with mine, and Certes’ brought
A sense of pleasant case on such a day.”—
For these things in themselves, Beloved, may
Be changed, or changed for thee—and love, so wrought.
May be unwrought so: Neither love me for
Thine own dear pity’s wiping my cheeks dry—
A creature might forget to weep, who bore
Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!
But love me for love’s sake, that evermore
Thou mayest love on, through love’s eternity.
As you can see in this sonnet, one should love a person simply for the sake of love only, for superficial things such as appearances, demeanor, and body language are likely to change after a course of time; as a matter of fact, these things might even completely fade away. If these ephemeral things were the only reason why some girl is smitten with you, then FORGET IT! Dump her at once, and don’t let her have a say about it, because sooner or later, she’ll have your heart shattered into pieces.
2.) Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
The judgment of our own eyes towards things is not determined by society’s standards. It is rather, or should be, determined by our own standards. What our thoughts and feelings are about the things we see is, and will never be, bounded to what society demands us to think.
Your looks may not be of high caliber for the traditional yardstick of society, but that doesn’t mean that you should automatically deem yourself as ‘a plain-looking man’, because surely, there will be individuals out there who would judge you otherwise—you might look cute, handsome, attractive, hot, or sexy in their (girls of course!) eyes. You’ll never know!
I know that in your lifetime you have already seen a lot of dysfunctional couples passed by—a homely, vertically challenged man holding hands with a pretty woman who is a head taller than him, or a wealthy, handsome young man together with a plain, dark-skinned brunette perhaps—and you’ve also seen that they love each other despite what society would say about them…that they deem each other the most beautiful thing despite what society’s opinions were.
3.) Looks are not the only thing that counts.
Ok, so you’re looks are not powerful enough to make a girl fall in love, but that definitely doesn’t mean you should give up trying. You still have other good traits with you, so instead of fretting over your looks, why don’t you just concentrate on implanting a good impression on a girl you’re hitting on by making yourself look good in some other way? You can be more than presentable by putting on some fashionable clothes, having your hair neatly trimmed, shaving the excess hairs on your chin, and of course, making yourself smell appealing by spraying on some of your male cologne; you can make your personality pleasing by being in your best behavior and by showing off your sense of humor spontaneously; you can give her flowers or chocolates or whatever gifts that girls may deem as sweet…oh…the list goes on and on! Believe me, good impressions count a hell lot more than looks. If I were to choose between a handsome man with an obnoxious personality and a plain-looking man with a dashing demeanor, I’d definitely go for the latter!
Still not convinced that not being attractive is not such a bad thing? Still think boys with such problems should do everything in their power—even spend tons of cash for a plastic surgery—to look as handsome as they can possibly be? Well, let me tell you something: not being a heartthrob also has its own benefits. Let me give you ten examples:
1.) When a girl tells him that she truly loves him for who he was, he has every reason to believe it—for one, he is sure that she’s not in love with him merely because of his ‘good’ looks.
2.) He needn’t worry about the trauma of waking up every morning only to be greeted at once by a bunch of obsessed girls waiting outside his front door to swoon over him and ask him to walk to school with them.
3.) He needn’t worry about having a whole army of annoying fan girls fight over him or chase after him the whole day, excluding class hours.
4.) He needn’t worry about suffering from the venomous glares of jealous boys, which is also why he shouldn’t worry about his not having any boy chum.
5.) He needn’t worry about having his locker filled with tons of unwanted gifts and junks as the code was somehow figured out by the ever-so-resourceful fan girls.
6.) He needn’t worry about cleaning up his electronic mailbox because it was being filled up with useless love quotes, clichés, and letters.
7.) He needn’t worry about the extreme dangers heartthrobs should face during the month of love. Even though he might not be able to find a Valentine date easily, at least he won’t be in a danger of encountering a limb fracture—desperate fan girls would not hesitate in playing tug of war and pulling the arms of their hottie just to get him to pick any one of them for a Valentine date; These wild love-struck gals would even resort to violence just to get what they thought should be rightfully theirs.
8.) He needn’t worry about his girlfriend being scared away or devoured by green-eyed monsters in the form of fan girls. That’s why heartthrobs usually end up being bachelors, because their girlfriends couldn’t stand the tortures, the insults, and the evil schemes of fan girls long enough to stick with him. (That’s how desperately evil fan girls are…)
9.) He needn’t worry about his girlfriend mistaking him for a two-timer. Now this is a different scenario. What if some annoying fan plunged into him and as he placed his hands on her shoulder to shrug her off, his girlfriend passed by and misunderstood the whole act? Tut, tut, tut…you know the rest…
10.) He needn’t worry about having gays fall in love or tag along with him, calling him ‘papa’ or other endearments that are even more hair-raising. (I’m feeling those goosebumps again…)
There you guys have it—some of the advantages of not being extremely handsome. Now I have a question for you: What do think of yourself?
Are you that young man who possessed looks that girls would willingly die for?
Are you that young man who possessed a mysterious sex appeal that could easily draw a girl’s attention?
Are you that young man who possessed none of those beautiful superficial things yet has the dashing demeanor that a gentleman ought to have?
Well, actually, it doesn't matter what you are. So long as you build up your self-confidence, make a good impression on people, live your life in a fruitful manner, and be the best that you can be, surely, there'll come a time wherein you'll be a heartthrob in people's eyes.
I know it's kind of idealistic for me to say so, but all I can say is that, I can't be denied that it is still in people's nature to see what truly matters in life. Perhaps it takes long for most people, but the point is that they still do. Even in this materialistic world.
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